A little over a year ago I started a three year jouney with a group of colleagues in a program called Creating a Culture of Renewal (CCR). Year one focused on Emotional Intelligence (EI), which is defined as:
the capability of individuals to recognize their own emotions and those of others, discern between different feelings and label them appropriately, use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior, and manage and/or adjust emotions to adapt to environments or achieve one’s goal(s).
That’s a great textbook definition…here is revbmat’s “dumbed down” version:
the ability to understand and navigate interpersonal dynamics in order to get the job done.
My learning about EI began with the DiSC profile, which classifies people using four primary styles:
“D”, which stands for Dominance. Persons with this style place emphasis on accomplishing results, and meeting the bottom line with confidence. “D”s typically exhibit the following behaviors: seeing the big picture, being blunt, accepting challenges, and getting straight to the point.
“i”, which stands for Influence. Persons with this style place emphasis on influencing or persuading others, openness, and relationships. “i”s typically exhibit the following behaviors: showing enthusiasm and optimism, liking collaboration, and disliking being ignored.
”S”, which stands for Steadiness. Persons with this style place emphasis on cooperation, sincerity and dependability. “S”s typically exhibit the following behaviors: disliking being rushed, being calm and approachable, and offering support.
”C”, which stands for Conscientiousness. Persons with this style place emphasis on quality and accuracy, expertise and competency. “C”s typically exhibit the following behaviors: enjoying independence and objective reasoning, wanting details, and fearing being wrong.
What I learned about myself is I am an ”SC.” Those who know me well will see this quite clearly. I spent year one learning as much as I could about myself, and the leadership of the church I serve.
Recently I began year two of CCR, which focuses on maximizing my leadership style. Using another assessment I have identified three key words on which to focus this year:
As an “SC” I lean toward safe and cautious. To avoid conflict I will temper my personal thoughts. I want to be known as someone who is amenable and does my job…and I just expect others to be the same…except that is rarely the way it goes, and so in order to be the leader I need to be, I have work to do in being risk-taking and bold when needed. I need to express myself and not shy away from potential conflict.
The picture at the top of this post is the wall opposite my desk. Notice I’ve posted these words to help hold me accountable and keep them always in my field of view. Notice I am also a star wars nerd, and someone has left a yo-yo there.